2010-03-09

If you have nothing nice to say...

So going through various posts today, I came to the conclusion that the most wearing of body and soul are the ones where the writer has nothing but critiques of an idea, a position, the implied criticism that the person who wrote the letter has no worth as a human being, and the fact that no part of the idea should ever be implemented, reviewed, added onto or listened to.

It is really depressing... because it implies
  • that unless you have a perfect plan, do nothing.
  • that failure is never an option
  • failure reflects upon the very character of the person who tried.
  • that to speak is to open yourself up to being abused.
Personally I am tired of it. bone tired. I think the wise saying my parents told me seems to be missing:

If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.

2 comments:

Mace said...

It is very tiring. However, over time an emotional callous forms and it no longer bothers you.

The problem then is that you risk inflicting the same abuse on others, since it no longer bothers you. And then the cycle repeats.

Steve said...

LET ME TELL YOU EVERYTHING WRONG WITH THIS POST!!!!1!11one11

Na, I agree with you :-)